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✦ New Release — In Pursuit of Her ✦

You Have Poured Into Everyone.
It Is Time Someone Poured Into You.

The book that finally puts your emotions into words.

Written for the woman who is secretly exhausted from being strong for everybody, the one who smiles publicly but cries privately, and wonders quietly when someone will finally notice she is tired too.

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Before You Keep Scrolling…

Read This If You Recognise Yourself Here.

“I keep functioning… but something inside me feels empty. I give and give, and I do not know who I am anymore outside of what I do for others.”

You sometimes wonder who you could have become if you had chosen yourself earlier..
You are successful on paper, but emotionally exhausted in private.
You scroll through social media and wonder why everyone else seems more confident, prettier, smarter, or more “together” than you.
You say “yes” to people because you are afraid they will leave if you disappoint them.
You secretly feel lost, even though everyone assumes you have your life figured out.
You have been called “strong” for so long that you forgot you are also allowed to be vulnerable.
You keep waiting for someone to “choose” you before you finally choose yourself.
You no longer want a life that only looks good you want one that feels aligned, peaceful, and authentic.
You know there is “more” inside you, but you do not know how to access it yet.
You are ready to stop surviving and finally start becoming.

If your heart reacted to even one of those, this book was written specifically, intentionally, and lovingly for you.

The Painful Truth Nobody Says Out Loud

Women Are Silently Disappearing While Still Functioning Publicly.

She is not lazy. She is not weak. She is not “too emotional.”

She is a woman who was taught by culture, by family, by society that her value lives in what she gives to others. That her love is measured by how much she sacrifices. That real strength means never showing when you are breaking.

“I do not even recognise the woman I have become while trying to survive.”

The word thousands of women have never said out loud

Society rewards this. Women are praised for enduring, for tolerating, for carrying everybody. But almost nobody teaches women how to remain emotionally whole while doing life.

She gives until she is empty, then gives some more
She tolerates what hurts her to keep the peace
She shrinks herself to make others comfortable
She apologises for taking up emotional space
She has no identity outside of her roles
She believes choosing herself is being selfish

Inside the Book

What In Pursuit of Her Will Walk You Through

If you have ever looked in the mirror and felt disconnected from the woman you used to be, this book was written for you. It shows you how to become whole, confident, healed, and truly yourself again.

Part OneHow She Lost HerselfThe emotional conditioning, the silence patterns, and the slow disappearance that happened little by little over the years.
Part TwoThe Labels She Carried AloneUnpacking emotional burnout, the cost of overgiving, the guilt of resting, and what it means to carry invisible labels.
Part ThreeWhy She Kept Abandoning HerselfGoing deep into people pleasing, fear of disappointing others, and the emotional roots of self-abandonment.
Part FourReclaiming Her VoiceLearning to speak up, set boundaries without guilt, stop shrinking, and express her truth without apology.
Part FiveIn Pursuit of Her AgainThe return journey. Rebuilding identity, reconnecting with confidence, and becoming whole again, for real.
Part SixThe Woman She Is BecomingProtecting her peace unapologetically and stepping fully into the woman she was always meant to be.
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The Transformation

From Survival Mode to Being Fully Yourself Again

Before Reading This Book
✕Feeling guilty every time you rest or say no
✕Staying silent when something hurts you deeply
✕Not knowing who you are outside responsibilities
✕Shrinking yourself to keep others comfortable
✕Feeling emotionally empty despite always giving
✕Carrying everyone while yours go unprocessed
→
After Reading This Book
✓Saying no without guilt, setting boundaries with peace
✓Speaking your truth with confidence and clarity
✓Reconnecting with who you truly are at your core
✓Taking up emotional space without apology
✓Giving from overflow, not from emptiness
✓Living as a whole woman, not a surviving one

A Word From the Book

“Society taught you to carry everyone.
Nobody taught you how to carry yourself too.
This book does.”

In Pursuit of Her

What You Will Gain

Everything This Book Will Give You

Not just inspiration. Real, lasting emotional clarity that changes how you see yourself permanently.

✦Rebuild Your IdentityRediscover who you are beneath all the roles and responsibilities you carry for everyone else.
✦Find Your Voice AgainLearn to speak up and stop swallowing your words to avoid conflict or disappointment.
✦Heal People PleasingUnderstand the emotional roots of why you constantly abandon yourself and break the pattern.
✦Set Boundaries Without GuiltStop apologising for protecting your peace. Create healthy limits that feel good, not shameful.
✦Reconnect With ConfidenceReturn to the bold, whole, unapologetically present you before survival mode took over.
✦Become Emotionally WholeNot just functioning but fully present, confident, at peace, and genuinely alive again.
✦Understand Emotional BurnoutFinally name what has been happening inside you and understand why you feel the way you feel.
✦Stop Shrinking YourselfTake up emotional space. Stop making yourself smaller to make others comfortable.

Is This Book For You?

This Book Is Exactly For You If…

01You are emotionally exhausted from carrying everybody while pretending you are completely fine
02You are trying to rediscover yourself after heartbreak, marriage, motherhood, ministry, or a survival season
03You struggle with people pleasing and boundaries and feel guilty every time you try to choose yourself
04You feel disconnected from the woman you used to be and want to find your way back to her
05You want deep emotional clarity not just surface level motivation that fades in a week
06You are ready to stop merely surviving and finally start becoming the whole, healed, free woman you know you can be

About the Author

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The Author

Victory Lawrence Oyeyemi

[Victory Lawrence Oyeyemi] is a writer, speaker, and voice for women navigating the quiet crisis of emotional exhaustion and self-abandonment. Having walked through her own season of losing herself and finding her way back she writes with honesty and warmth that makes women feel deeply understood.

Her work sits at the intersection of emotional healing, feminine wholeness, and identity restoration. She believes the most revolutionary thing a woman can do is choose herself fully, unapologetically, without guilt.

“I wrote this book because I needed it when I was at my lowest. And I believe the woman reading it right now needs it too.”

Real Women. Real Words.

What Women Are Saying About This Book

★★★★★

“Reading In Pursuit of Her was a deeply moving experience. With honesty and grace, Victory gives voice to a quiet reality many women live but rarely articulate, the slow fading of self in the midst of responsibility, strength, and service to others. Through this work, she gently invites women back to themselves, reminding them that carrying everyone else should never mean losing who they are. This book is not just insightful, it is restorative. It speaks with compassion, clarity, and understanding, offering readers permission to pause, reflect, and reclaim their own voice. I am confident that In Pursuit of Her will resonate deeply with many women and serve as a powerful companion on their journey back to self.”

AOrunsolu Ayomikun Fausiyat.Healthy living advocate and coach
★★★★★

“In Pursuit of Her is a deeply reflective and honest journey from survival to wholeness. It speaks tenderly to every woman who has ever felt lost in responsibility and gently invites her back to herself This is a powerful and necessary read; one that contributes meaningfully to true identity formation. The work is strong and impactful, with profound insights on survival and identity woven throughout Overall I highly recommend this book as a great buy and read worth every penny spent.”

FPastor Mrs Stella ibironke.Pastor HICC WOW women
★★★★★

“In Pursuit of Her is a compelling and insightful piece that speaks with clarity, depth, and purpose. The author demonstrates a strong grasp of the subject, delivering a message that is both engaging and impactful. I am confident this book will resonate with its intended audience and stand as a valuable contribution in its space.”

NMr. Niyi Oluwajoba.STEM Consultant

Why This Book Is Different

Most Books Tell You What to Do. This One Explains Why.

Other Books
In Pursuit of Her
✕Tells you to “just love yourself” without explaining why you stopped
✓Explains the exact emotional patterns behind why you lost yourself
✕Stays on the surface with affirmations and positivity
✓Goes deep into the root causes of people-pleasing and self-abandonment
✕Makes you feel inspired for a week then fades
✓Creates permanent change in how you see yourself and your worth
✕Focuses on external performance and productivity
✓Focuses on internal restoration, emotional health, and identity
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Questions Answered

Everything You Need to Know

Who exactly is this book written for?This book is written for any woman who has spent so long taking care of everyone else that she has lost touch with herself. Whether you are married, single, a mother, in ministry, in a career, or in a season of emotional exhaustion, if you recognise yourself in the description on this page, this book was written with you in mind.
How is this different from other self-help books?Most empowerment books give you “what to do” this book explains WHY. It goes beneath the surface to show you the emotional patterns and the internal reasons behind why you lost yourself in the first place. Understanding the root is what creates permanent change, not just temporary inspiration.
How soon will I receive the ebook after purchase?Your ebook will be delivered instantly after purchase directly to your email or via the download link at checkout. You can begin reading within minutes. For paperback, delivery times depend on your location and will be confirmed at checkout.
Is the paperback available for delivery across Nigeria?Yes. Paperback delivery is available across Nigeria. Delivery details and estimated timelines will be confirmed at the time of your order. If you need the book urgently, the ebook is the best option for immediate access.
Can I buy this as a gift for someone I care about?Yes and this is one of the most loving things you can do for a woman in your life. Many readers have purchased extra copies for sisters, friends, daughters, and mothers. The paperback makes a beautiful, meaningful gift.

This Is Your Moment

She Is Still In There.
Waiting to Be Found.

The woman you were before exhaustion took over is not gone. She has just been buried under years of giving, tolerating, surviving, and silently falling apart.

Let this book be the moment you decide to go looking for her again.

Not tomorrow. Not when life gets less busy. Not after another breakdown. Now.

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